It's Okay to Put Down the Shovel

A response to a reader

It's Okay to Put Down the Shovel
Photo by Aleksandr Ledogorov / Unsplash

This is for the person who recently contacted me, who feels the weight of the world but just doesn't have the fight left for it. I could have written this to myself.


I see you, in your small city dwelling, close enough to hear the sirens and smell the rain on the hot concrete. You chose this life, or perhaps life chose it for you, because you need the convenience, the community, the necessary proximity to things like doctors and hospitals.

You know the dark calculus of it: a city is a fragile, interconnected machine, and in a breakdown, it becomes a cage. You know that what you have is not enough: the few gallons of stored water, the small garden, that basic first-aid kit. I have the same worries.

​You look at the aggressive preppers, the ones talking about bug-out locations, training, and tactical gear, and you feel inadequate. You don't have the land, the money, the time, or the energy. You’ve watched all the videos, read the books, and mentally calculated the gap between what you should be doing and what you can do.

I’m here to tell you that it is okay to step away from that scoreboard. It is okay to look at the immense, unpredictable nature of the future and say, "I am done fighting a battle I cannot win."

The anxiety and feeling of responsibility to defy the inevitable is exhausting. It turns life into a ticking clock and every mundane task into wasted effort that could have been spent securing more supplies. You feel like you're failing by choosing a life of quiet dignity over a life of constant, grinding preparation.

But what if acceptance isn't failure?

There is a paradoxical comfort that comes with accepting your fate. When you stop trying to control the uncontrollable and accept your small, urban prep will never match the scale of a true systemic collapse you gain back all the time and mental space that anxiety was eating up.

You don’t have to live in a state of perpetual "what if." You are free to focus on the now. ​Living in the moment is often sold as a reckless concept, but for someone in your position, it becomes a survival strategy for the soul. It's not about abdicating responsibility; it’s about shifting priorities.

That means making the most of the amenities that drew you to the city in the first place. Go to the cultural event. Enjoy the library. Visit that friend who makes you laugh.

You are choosing to drink deeply from the well of existing life, rather than constantly digging new holes in preparation for drought.

The philosophy of aggressive prepping is often rooted in the idea of out-competing the scenario (and other people) to be the last one standing. Your path is different. Your path is one of quiet dignity.

This doesn't mean becoming a self-absorbed nihilist. Not at all. It means respecting the time you have left by being kind, helpful, and present. It means treating the planet and the people you encounter with the respect they deserve, simply because that is how a good person behaves, regardless of the coming storm. ​Your actions are still responsible. You are maintaining your little corner of the world, tending your tiny garden, being a good neighbor, and trying not to add to the collective panic. You are refusing to let the fear of the future destroy the beauty of the present.

So, please, let the guilt go. Put down the shovel. You dont have to be a warrior for the end times; you are a human being making a conscious choice to prioritize peace of mind over a hopeless battle.


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